The Effective Communicator returns to settle the never-ending debate: which form of communication is the best?
Dear Effective Communicator:
I get overwhelmed by all the ways to communicate with my staff: email, text message, phone, Twitter, Instagram, in-person meetings. I worry that if I don’t use the right tool, people won’t get my message — or, worse, they’ll misunderstand me. Help?
Overwhelmed in my Online Office
Anyone who has ever received a break-up text (speaking for a friend), knows that how you say something can be just as important as what you say. The late Canadian media theorist Marshall McLuhan coined a brilliant phrase to describe this phenomenon: “The medium is the message.”
The way you choose to talk to someone — the tool or medium you use — influences how that person receives your message. A belated happy birthday text from an old college friend will bring a smile to your face, while one from your spouse will turn that smile upside down.
What you say must fit with what you’re saying. It’s a concept called decorum. At first glance, it sounds old-fashioned, but I don’t mean decorum in the sense of etiquette (though etiquette does play a role here). Decorum also has a rhetorical, or persuasive, function.
Decorum requires a certain generosity on your part. It means approaching people the way they hope to be approached. If you’re trying to persuade your co-worker to a new point of view, speaking the way she speaks is good practice because it gives you a greater chance of reaching her.
Back to your original question: McLuhan’s phrase and the concept of decorum suggest that how you communicate to your staff depends on what you’re communicating — along with the personal preferences of who you’re communicating to. But how to know?
The best way to learn is through observation. Failing that, try asking: What’s your preference for when I communicate with you? Ask them specifically — Text? Call? Email? Walk down the hall and pop in? Especially if it's someone you will be communicating with frequently, ask them what they prefer.
I often prefer phone calls and text messages, but my colleague Kristen has a strong preference for email. We try to accommodate each other’s preferences by delivering important messages in our preferred mediums.
WHAT ABOUT PEOPLE YOU CAN’T ASK?
Data exists to guide your decisions. This 2014 Gallup study on Americans' communication preferences is a good indication of where you should start. The bottom line: there is a slight preference for texts and phone calls — but people still read email.
I know, I hate it too. But you can bet it’s one of the first and last things I do every day.
You got this,
The Effective Communicator